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Red Flags....

 Early on in my relationship, I had seen red-flags of the behavior. But being the optimistic I was at that time, I thought everything will fall in place. Least did I know that it would never be the case. Immediately after our engagement, I had an ice-breaker date. I had slipped off to a hill station near the place where she studied. We were living in two separate cities separated by 12 hours train journey at that time. 

We had a fun time that day. I never knew that I was actually digging my hole in the ground. When the meet happened and we retired to our respective places, there was an expectation brewing from the other end that I will coddle her. 

After the date, there were lot of phone calls and she would call frequently when she did not get thru me. I did not think of it that much. One day I was riding to home after work when she called me. My mobile was in my pocket and I couldn't feel the vibration. There were continuous calls and there was no respite to it. I felt the phone ring finally and then stopped after a traffic signal to attend the call. There was an emotional outburst of drama from other end. Somehow me trying to explain that I was in traffic did not go into her head. 

I reached home, called her and pacified her. I did not hear a single word of apology from her that day; it is normal for a person not to pick up calls when they are busy; it becomes an emergency if the person does not return the call for 24 hours. Every human being knows this and somehow I get blamed for something that was never in my control. 

So, do not ignore red flags!! Get out when you can. 

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